So basically, I have a question that I need as many responses to as I can get. Feel free to put in your two cents (or more if you feel the need). I will take all that I can get.
How do you deal with someone that you are losing respect for? There is someone that I know whose heart is in the right place in all they do. They are hard working and respectful of everyone they come in contact with. However...the more I see this person in action, I want to slap my head and say "You have GOT to be kidding me!" Each time this happens (and it is becoming a few times a week), I feel myself losing respect for them and because of that, I am also losing trust. I cannot afford to feel this way.
Help! What do I do!?
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I find that there are 2 kinds of respect. There is the "hero" kind and the "human" kind. Sorry to hear that the "hero" kind is falling away. It happens. But never lose the "human" kind. Whoever this person is, he/she is still created after God's own image and is still His creation and His child. You have to respect that. "Hero" respect is sometimes a good thing to lose when the person acts unworthy of it. It can be a good thing to see the truth of ones person. As far as trust goes. That is a whole other ball of wax. Without knowing particulars it is hard to say. I'm not the best with trust so I don't think I should go there. Love you and hope it works out however it needs to.
Have to disagree with Cryssy - I in no way think that all humans are deserving of respect . . the terroist on 9/11 come to mind immidently. So does the jerk who dumped my little sister with nothing , nowhere and a daughter to raise . . I could go on, but I hope my point is made.
As far as the losing respect, Dana, I am so sorry, but your respect for a person is a huge gift. It's trust, and steadfastness, and not something that everyone automatically gets (at least I don't hand out respect so easily.) When it's gone, and love remains - (and love always remains as Christians, right?) then I guess all I can see that is left is hope. In them, and in yourself that you'll get it back.
I say that to say this; Your holding on makes the destruction faster and more complete. I would make them see this in some way and then sit back and lean on hope.
When I find myself in this spot, I try to do the "respect the position, not the individual." I agree with Jackie that respect and trust are earned, and for the most part, given discriminately. We model giving respect at school hundreds of times a day, and most people are deserving. Keep looking for something in that person you can respect, and focus on that.
i think that it was something that effects your job/or ones job, it should be handled. if it's just someone you are close to and want to trust, yes, look for the good in that person and try to find something that you could respect about them. but if this is a person that influences others everyday and is more than someone whose company you enjoy. i think action could be taken. if it will effect everyday activity then that is different from what your mom and jackie are talking about. God gave you a good heart and a good sense of discernment, you will do the right thing!
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