Friday, February 24, 2012

Observations on Relationships

Two of my best friends are getting married in a few months so it only makes sense that the topic of weddings/relationships is a frequently discussed topic. Articles are shared, conversations are had, and books are read. It's the expected nature of this stage of life. We are all pretty close in age and the common belief is held that despite how hard it has been to wait for that someone, we are all thankful that we didn't get married earlier. Reasons vary from 1. the observation that we were not as ready as we thought we were to 2. the fact that we enjoyed our single years (and still are). In our little trio, I am doing the observing for this season as I am in this stage of waiting. I am enjoying watching all of this for Jen and Emily. I'm very thankful they let me tag long in it. All of this talk has had me thinking about relationships - how my ideas on them have changed, what I have learned, and what I'm hoping for. Be prepared, this is single girl rambling so take it with a grain of salt.

Relationships are about partnership. It's about two people who decide to fight for each other as a unit and as individuals. I love that HFBC's Pastor Gregg calls his family Team Matte. I love that Erin and Gregg high five and constantly call each other "Johnson" as if they are teammates - each other's biggest fans. That's what it boils down to - being a unit. Cheering each other on, working together towards each other's strengths, helping each other out as need be, and striving towards a common goal. Two people who will see each other as worth working for. Who sees the best in each other and fight for that. Two people who know that while they may not agree on everything, they can work towards understanding and solutions. Two people who support each other, stand beside each other, and partner with each other. Who will let his strengths make up for her weaknesses and who will let her do the same for him. Someone to confide in, lean upon, and share with. Someone to think aloud with. Two people who challenges each other to see other sides and correct lovingly when need be. Someone who loves too much to let the other stay exactly as they are but stretches them to be better each day. The best relationships I have seen are those that enjoy each other. Let's face it, life and relationships are hard enough. You have to know how to laugh together and play together to make the work worth it.

It's a choice. To love together and grow together. To listen to each other and laugh together. To be vulnerable together and strengthen each other. To pray together and play together. It's work and it's worth it.

1 comment:

Amy said...

My favorite line in this post is: "Two people who see each other as worth working for." So often, it's easy to lose sight of how precious the other one is, and how valuable they are to you... great observations!!